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    • Awareness in distinction "ME" - "NOT ME", is for me related to the responsibility process.What is your opinion about that?

      If someone clearly knows that comes from one self or what from someone else (whether it is a thought, an emotion or a behavior), it should be more easy to take up responsibility, right?

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      • Do you notice some cultural difference between countries/contintents in implementing the responsibility process?

        You have been talking around the world about the responsibility proces.
        As an agile coach I know that there is a lot of cultural differences between countries etc.
        Have you noticed a difference between using this? Are people in different countries more stuck on one or another island?

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        • How to teach about a common misapplication of the Responsibility Process?

          There is inevitably someone who asks: "How does the Responsibility Process apply when someone is blaming *me*?" By this they seem to mean "when THEY are in Blame". Would you show us how you respond, please? Would love to see a roleplay.

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          • When was the last time you were stuck on an Island ?

            You talk about people being stuck on an island and not getting to responsibility? Will you tell us something about the last time you were stuck?

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            • Moving old trees from one place to another is difficult, are there initiatives related to the responsibility process with children?

              As it is not easy to change old habbits and behaviors I am wondering if there are initiatives out there related to the responsibility process involving children. What kind of results do they show?

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              • How are you using the responsibility proces with your partner

                In a personal relation, trust is important, one part of creating trust is taking responsibility. A lot of couples struggle with a different view on responsibility. How do you work with this?

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                  • Does age have an influence on the typical type of "island" people are stuck on?

                    We all have our favorite island to get stuck on to avid responsibility. I wonder if that default island changes when people get older?

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                    • The responsibility process is focuding on when it goes wrong. Is the same process in place when it goes right?

                      What if someone takes up responsibility (does something good) and doesn't see/know/feel it?
                      QUIT could become QUIT to avoid the pain of positive attention
                      SHAME could become SHY
                      JUSTIFY could be looking for external reasons of the good that happened ("I was lucky to have X,Y,Z in my environment)
                      LAY BLAME could become APPRAISE OTHERS
                      DENIAL ("what I did was really nothing (of value)"
                      How do you see this and how to handle that?

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